She doesn’t reply.
Replying to you shows that she wants to keep chatting. Does she forget to reply to your messages a lot, or does she answer pretty frequently? If she’s bored, she might not bother replying to your texts, and then make up a lot of excuses about why she didn’t reply. Listen to her excuses and see if they’re genuine. Reasons like “I was at work” or “I was in class” are pretty solid, while “I was busy” seems pretty vague.
You do most of the texting.
Count how many messages you send, and how many she sends. Are you both talking equal amounts, or are you talking 80% of the time? According to experts, unbalanced conversations are a key sign that the other person is feeling bored.
Her texts are vague.
Vague answers show a definite lack of interest. While an occasional vague text isn’t the end of the world, constantly vague messages are a red flag. If she doesn’t take the time to write out a thoughtful reply, she’s probably bored. One-word answers like “okay” or “cool” are prime examples of vague texts.
Her messages mirror yours.
Bored people tend to repeat statements instead of saying something new. Read over some of your recent texts, and see how she replied to your messages. If she repeats what you sent without writing an original response, she’s probably bored. For instance, if you sent something like, “It’s snowing outside,” she might reply with, “Yeah, it’s snowing outside.”
She asks basic questions.
Simple questions show a lack of interest. Pay attention to her replies when you talk about your day. See if she asks specific questions, or if her replies are on the general side. If she’s bored, she probably won’t put too much thought into her texts, and rely on basic questions. Texts like “Where did you go?” or “What did you do?” are vague. Keep in mind that it can be really hard to pick up on somebody's tone or intentions through messages—that might just be how she texts.
She changes the topic quickly.
Changing the subject shows that she’s not paying attention. In a really engaged conversation, your conversation will build off a single topic. If you’re texting about your weekend plans and she replies with a random question or segues into a different topic without any explanation, there’s a good chance that she was bored of the original conversation. For example, if you were texting about your favorite TV show and she randomly messages you about Spanish homework, she probably wasn’t listening to whatever you told her.
She doesn’t set aside time to talk.
Any kind of friendship or relationship involves making time for others. If she’s really interested in chatting with you, she’ll find the time to do it, even if your schedule is jam-packed. If she isn’t willing to talk to you at any point during the week, there’s a good chance that she’s bored of you. Some people might not text much during the week, but text more on the weekend to make up for it. If she never seems to have time to talk, she probably isn’t interested in carrying on a conversation. Scroll through your chat history and see who usually starts up the conversation. It’s definitely a red flag if you’re always sending the first text.
She never asks for more information.
Follow-up questions are key to a good conversation. These questions prove that she’s really interested and tuning in to what you’re saying. If she never seems to care about anything you’re sending, there’s a good chance that she’s bored of the conversation. If you’re talking about your weekend plans, she could ask questions like “What are you most looking forward to?” or “Do you go there a lot?”
She ends the conversation often.
If she's always cutting your conversation off, she's not engaged. Worse, these attempts can make you less comfortable texting her in the future. And if you don't feel comfortable reaching out, it may be a sign the relationship is not built to last. If her attempts to end the conversation are clearly and respectfully communicated, there may be no cause for concern. There is a difference between saying "I have to go" and "I'm a little busy, can we talk later?"
She leaves you on read.
Frequent read receipts usually means she isn't feeling it. You can drive yourself crazy paying too much attention to your read receipts, but the harsh reality is that anybody who really cares about you would not read your text and leave it without a response. A girl can leave you on read every now and then, as she may be too busy to type out a response. But if it is a persistent issue, she is likely bored of texting you. Be careful not to send too many follow-up texts. Of course, you can still follow up if you want to keep the conversation going. Check out this wikiHow guide for tips on how to restart a conversation.
She uses only emojis.
Emojis add personality to texts, but shouldn't replace words altogether. Emojis can often indicate that a girl is interested in you, but if her texts consist of strictly emojis and nothing else, there may be cause for concern.
She's always on her phone when you're together.
If a girl spends a lot of time on her phone, surely she can text you back. If you struggle to maintain conversation with a girl when you are apart, but you discover that she is frequently on her phone when you are together, that is evidence that she is simply choosing not to text you back.
She flakes when you make plans.
Inconsistent texting can be overlooked, but not when making plans. Texting is just one aspect of a relationship, but it is crucial to text clearly and consistently when you and your partner are setting up a date. If she bails on your plans, or is reluctant to set something up, she is likely not interested in you. When having important or logistical conversations, consider having a phone call with a girl instead.
She avoids calling you.
A phone call shows that she wants to do more than just text. You can have a lot of fun conversations over text, but a phone call allows you to get deeper and have more extended conversations. If a girl only wants to text, and avoids talking to you on the phone, she may not feel comfortable with you. Be sure to give a girl time and space as she gets to know you. If you just met a girl, you should only text for a while. A phone call or an in-person date will come in time, so long as you allow your connection to develop organically.
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